Will You Hook Up with Him on Prom Night?
By Tyla Abercrumbie
Ahh, the sweet scent of change is in the air. As the summer makes its way into season many things are happening that we have all grown too associated with summer. The flowers are blooming, the sun is shinning, the rain is less, the days are longer, graduations are approaching, and Prom is just around the corner. Parades of pastels are everywhere in every city and stretch limousines are crowded with youngsters ready to enter into the new phase of their lives. Adult hood awaits them with college promising to be a greater adventure then high school. It’s a beautiful time of year but I think it’s important to note a few mistakes that are equally familiar with the coming occasions.
When I graduated from high school the big conversation was about going all the way, would you or wouldn’t you give it up on Prom Night? If you had managed to avoid not losing your virginity throughout your four years of high school, you were sure to lose it on Prom Night. There is an underline pressure that circulates down hallways, across phone lines and into our decision making challenges, along with final exams, what color should you wear? Who will be your date? What college or university will you attend, and so much more. It’s exhausting! The pressure mounts even more when finding a date becomes increasingly difficult. You find yourself partnered with somebody that you know well enough to go to Prom with, but not well enough to sleep with, but still the question looms “Will you, or wont you?”
It’s important for young adults to understand that making love is something to share with someone important to you. It should never be so much about the other person that we forget ourselves or are so influenced by our peers that we act in haste. Ladies and Gents know that making love is a beautiful experienced shared between two people. Let the operatives be shared and two. Personally, I would suggest abstaining from the act of intercourse until you have met the person you plan to marry, but it’s also, very unrealistic. Therefore, here lies my advice; far too often young people make the mistake of having intercourse in order to please the wants and desires of the other person or view the act as a right of passage from child to adult. It is neither of those things. If you find yourself determined to have intercourse, make love, hook up, get busy, or do it on Prom Night, make an informed choice and one of your on volition. Carry your own condoms. Responsible acts require responsible behavior on both parties.
When you make the choice to share an intimate moment let it be special. Do it for you, not the other person, and not because your friends did it or you wanted to be cool. In this way you don’t beat yourself up with feelings of inadequacy, self-hate, regret or that ever so exhausting feeling of being used. Best advice would be please abstain from having intercourse, it’s an important decision to make for your life at a young age. But if you must hook up, be responsible and respect yourself.